How To Tell Your NSA Partner You Want More?


You have a no strings attached sex partner and you enjoy the relationship so much that you want more. This isn't an uncommon thing when you have a no strings attached relationship. You are both friends and sharing a passion together. Your original agreement was that you would be just friends and share the added benefit of having relations with each other. How do you tell your NSA partner that you want more than what you have?

The idea can be simply intimidating but don't worry, we are going to help you determine how to do this.

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First, Be Sure That You Are Ready For This

Before you go to your friend with benefits you need to make sure that you are ready to ask for something more. If you had a specific agreement that you would just remain friends, you can damage the relationship by asking for something more. At the same time, your NSA might be thinking the same thing as you.

You also need to be sure you are ready for something more. When you ask for more from your NSA relationship, things will change. You will become more, have more obligation, but at the same time, have more joy.

If you think you are ready for more, even after this, continue reading.

Want To Know If They Are Ready To Move On To More?

Moving onto more from a friends with benefits relationship can be daunting. You want to have some idea if it will happen before hand but it is hard to know. Sometimes though, you can have an idea of whether or not there is potential. Here are some signs to look for:

  • You start to develop pet names for each other
  • He/She calls you baby, dear, or something similar
  • You share friends
  • Your partner are constantly asking you to do other things with them
  • Spend the night at each others houses
  • Go out together on what would otherwise be called a date
  • Know all each other's secrets
  • Take pictures together

These aren't always signs that there is something more waiting to happen. They are just common signs to look for. If you don't have all of them, or even any of them, don't let that discourage you. Everyone shows relationships different.

Be Upfront And Honest

The best way to go about telling someone that you want more is to be upfront and honest. Tell your NSA that you want to talk and go somewhere that you won't be disturbed. Speak with them and don't cut corners, tell them the sex is great but you need more emotionally with them. This conversation should be done in person and not over the internet.

Want To Ask Probing Questions?

A lot of partners who want more from a NSA relationship want to ask probing questions. You can do this but know that often times when you ask probing questions, your partner will have a good idea of what you are really trying to ask and why. Most people prefer that you are upfront and honest.

The time to ask probing questions comes before the honest and upfront discussion we mentioned above. Doing it just before or at the time of the discussion sets a bad stage.

Don't Be Afraid To End It

If your conversation doesn't go the way that you want it to, there are bound to be hurt feelings. Those hurt feelings might even exist on both sides. Sometimes the other partner may end the relationship because they don't want to be with someone who wants more. Unless, you are absolutely sure that you want to continue the relationship, it is best that you end it. You don't want to be hurt and the more that you stay in the relationship, the more feelings you are going to develop for your NSA partner. Eventually, the NSA relationship will end and it will hurt even more.

The movies tend to make a no strings attached relationship look like they move from friends to a relationship magically. In the real world, the process isn't magical. It might take a little work to become something more. Not every NSA relationship becomes something more but it happens more often than people think. We all wish you the best of luck in moving your NSA to something more.